Comments on: A Foot In Both Worlds http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/ tweet, tweet Sun, 23 Nov 2008 16:06:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: zgirl http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-354 Wed, 22 Nov 2006 18:45:42 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-354 Well, the anthropologist in me also needs to get a good copy editor. Sorry about the typos. I have a tendency to make lots of them, even in short posts. Well, the anthropologist in me also needs to get a good copy editor. Sorry about the typos. I have a tendency to make lots of them, even in short posts.

]]> by: zgirl http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-353 Wed, 22 Nov 2006 18:44:32 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-353 The anthropologist in my is fascinated by these cultural differences. At some point when I'm not with my book on environmental breast cancer activism, I'd love do a project on the assorted cultures of international adoption. The anthropologist in my is fascinated by these cultural differences. At some point when I’m not with my book on environmental breast cancer activism, I’d love do a project on the assorted cultures of international adoption.

]]> by: Maggie http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-352 Sun, 19 Nov 2006 17:30:53 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-352 Great post. I understand the desire to divide into groups with common language and issues, but I don't like it when the division turns to "this way is best." That's just hurtful, but as others have commented, it does seem to be human nature. Great post. I understand the desire to divide into groups with common language and issues, but I don’t like it when the division turns to “this way is best.” That’s just hurtful, but as others have commented, it does seem to be human nature.

]]> by: Averysmomflies http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-351 Fri, 17 Nov 2006 06:00:49 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-351 All I can say is well said, and thank you for saying it. There seems to be a variety of Me Vs.Them within IA, and this just shined a light on one of the more profound groups involved. Thank you for enlightening us. In most instances of life we are not privey to know what the otherside says, thinks, or does. So I appreciate your very neutral view from the top of the fence. My god daughter has down syndrome, and it is not about loving her different, it is about how to meet her needs differently. I have been exposed to the Me vs Them world within that group, and it is really amazing how it even subdivides within those groups. Who is getting extensive therapy to help their child, who is considered severe, or high functioning etc....the list just goes on and on. So I do think it must be part of human nature. I find this a very interesting topic in itself. All I can say is well said, and thank you for saying it. There seems to be a variety of Me Vs.Them within IA, and this just shined a light on one of the more profound groups involved. Thank you for enlightening us. In most instances of life we are not privey to know what the otherside says, thinks, or does. So I appreciate your very neutral view from the top of the fence.
My god daughter has down syndrome, and it is not about loving her different, it is about how to meet her needs differently. I have been exposed to the Me vs Them world within that group, and it is really amazing how it even subdivides within those groups. Who is getting extensive therapy to help their child, who is considered severe, or high functioning etc….the list just goes on and on.
So I do think it must be part of human nature.
I find this a very interesting topic in itself.

]]> by: siobhan http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-350 Thu, 16 Nov 2006 22:28:41 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-350 Great post! Twas ever thus though I think, this need to self justify and reverse oneself further and further into smaller and smaller more specialised groups. On the one hand I completely understand it and we all want to find the circle where we feel most understood and have most in common. On the other hand I can't bear the continual need to point out difference and segregate rather than notice similarity and what we have in common... Great post! Twas ever thus though I think, this need to self justify and reverse oneself further and further into smaller and smaller more specialised groups. On the one hand I completely understand it and we all want to find the circle where we feel most understood and have most in common. On the other hand I can’t bear the continual need to point out difference and segregate rather than notice similarity and what we have in common…

]]> by: Nicole http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-349 Thu, 16 Nov 2006 19:58:46 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-349 Oh, thank you so much for posting this. Seriously! Oh, thank you so much for posting this. Seriously!

]]> by: walternatives http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-348 Tue, 14 Nov 2006 21:57:03 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-348 Thanks for sharing this "other world" with us. I had no idea though I'm not surprised; there are divisions in every culture/sub-culture. Thanks for sharing this “other world” with us. I had no idea though I’m not surprised; there are divisions in every culture/sub-culture.

]]> by: Scott Ocheltree http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-347 Tue, 14 Nov 2006 07:35:38 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-347 Us and Them - it's like the Pink Floyd song. Nice post, I don't pretend to know enough to trash talk any group of parents, but I do know that parenting SN kids is different than parenting NSN kids - not in how you love them or how you care for them, but the issue of advocacy takes on a whole new meaning. I am very careful with my time on forums as they can be quite challenging. The ones I do follow don't go in for conflict. Having been home for over a year I don't check RQ, but will now have to go peruse the wreckage. Us and Them - it’s like the Pink Floyd song.

Nice post, I don’t pretend to know enough to trash talk any group of parents, but I do know that parenting SN kids is different than parenting NSN kids - not in how you love them or how you care for them, but the issue of advocacy takes on a whole new meaning.

I am very careful with my time on forums as they can be quite challenging. The ones I do follow don’t go in for conflict.

Having been home for over a year I don’t check RQ, but will now have to go peruse the wreckage.

]]> by: Christie http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-346 Tue, 14 Nov 2006 04:05:49 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-346 sorry that was NOT switching to SN adoption....typo sorry that was NOT switching to SN adoption….typo

]]> by: Christie http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-345 Tue, 14 Nov 2006 04:05:07 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2006/11/13/a-foot-in-both-worlds/#comment-345 I have fallen into these traps of arguments as well as several others including but not limited to: motivation to adopt after infertility, parental issues with adopted children vs. biological children, SN versus NSN, switching to SN to expedite adoption, and worst of all, defending myself (and feeling guilty over my perceived selfishness) for NOT switching to NSN adoption. I've been doing this for over four years and the only half-intelligent, non-judgemental, walk a mile in someone else's shoes answer that I can come up with is; "These children, no matter who they are, where they came from or how they came need and deserve a forever family. The decisions, the process, the path, and the steps that the families took to bring them home don't matter one iota. What matters is that these children have a forever family. I have fallen into these traps of arguments as well as several others including but not limited to: motivation to adopt after infertility, parental issues with adopted children vs. biological children, SN versus NSN, switching to SN to expedite adoption, and worst of all, defending myself (and feeling guilty over my perceived selfishness) for NOT switching to NSN adoption. I’ve been doing this for over four years and the only half-intelligent, non-judgemental, walk a mile in someone else’s shoes answer that I can come up with is; “These children, no matter who they are, where they came from or how they came need and deserve a forever family. The decisions, the process, the path, and the steps that the families took to bring them home don’t matter one iota. What matters is that these children have a forever family.

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