Between A Rock and A Hard Place…

So, the new restrictions that fell out of the big CCAA meeting yesterday have been posted on the RQ, and–if nothing else did–they alone could confirm for us that we did the right thing by switching to SN…

R. is turning 52 in April, which means that had we stayed NSN, we already would have been experiencing a grandfathered in situation with the age requirement for NSN now going to 50 for each parent. BUT, crucially, had we stayed NSN, it would have meant no kiddo #2–NSN or SN–for us, at least from China. R. would have been 55 by the time we paperchased for #2, which means we wouldn’t have been able to adopt SN for #2 either.

At least now, we have the chance to get Emme Lu home in the next few months and start searching the WC lists soon after for #2. The CCAA has no restriction about waiting a year between kids for SN adoptions (although some agencies sometimes get this little factoid wrong), so many SN aparents actually send in LOIs for #2 while they’re still waiting for TA or are just home with #1. I want to wait until we’re through with Emme Lu’s surgery/ies this summer and have worked on the first crucial six-months of attachment with her, but we won’t be waiting too long after that before we start looking again. We have three years to complete our family, assuming we stick with China–and there aren’t many other countries who will look at a 50+ year old.

The no-more-singles rule really sucks ass. I’m just sick about it for the single aparents.