Comments on: Tick, Tock. http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/ tweet, tweet Sun, 12 Oct 2008 08:35:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Jenny http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18994 Sun, 10 Feb 2008 17:19:00 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18994 Yeah, we got the giant house, cause I couldn't deal with the walls closing in on me, being a hermit myself (i crave time alone in my home). My issue wasn't snakes or bugs it was toys and no personal space. And now I have it and it is wonderful. I still don't have a support system or group quite yet. That is much much harder. And BTW I would die without my mac and wireless internet. The girls and I walk, not me alone, so the internet is my only outlet some days. I wish you luck. I think you have the right idea for you at this moment in time. Sometimes I feel we live parallel lives. Reading this makes me think more SAHM's have the same feelings but just aren't able to articulate them...isolation is hard with a kid. Good luck moving! Yeah, we got the giant house, cause I couldn’t deal with the walls closing in on me, being a hermit myself (i crave time alone in my home). My issue wasn’t snakes or bugs it was toys and no personal space. And now I have it and it is wonderful. I still don’t have a support system or group quite yet. That is much much harder. And BTW I would die without my mac and wireless internet. The girls and I walk, not me alone, so the internet is my only outlet some days.

I wish you luck. I think you have the right idea for you at this moment in time.

Sometimes I feel we live parallel lives. Reading this makes me think more SAHM’s have the same feelings but just aren’t able to articulate them…isolation is hard with a kid. Good luck moving!

]]> by: Brooklyn Mama http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18220 Sat, 02 Feb 2008 21:48:53 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18220 It sounds like a good move for all of you. Hooray for support systems! It sounds like a good move for all of you. Hooray for support systems!

]]> by: M http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18134 Sat, 02 Feb 2008 03:17:31 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18134 I am so glad to hear you sing again, as I have missed your presence and wondered how things are going. I really love the honesty of this post and learning about the journey you are on. There seems to be very little in life that we gain without giving up something else. Your transition to a famly of three has created interesting shifts in what is most important. I have often wondered how this will look in my life when my time comes. I look forward to reading more about your experiences and process. And, by the way, Emme Lu's amazing personality continues to jump off the screen each time you post pictures. I'm sure she will totally thrive in her new community. I am so glad to hear you sing again, as I have missed your presence and wondered how things are going. I really love the honesty of this post and learning about the journey you are on. There seems to be very little in life that we gain without giving up something else. Your transition to a famly of three has created interesting shifts in what is most important. I have often wondered how this will look in my life when my time comes. I look forward to reading more about your experiences and process.

And, by the way, Emme Lu’s amazing personality continues to jump off the screen each time you post pictures. I’m sure she will totally thrive in her new community.

]]> by: Jessi http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18132 Sat, 02 Feb 2008 02:47:47 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18132 Friendship and society are very, very good things to have -- especially when trying to maintain a sense of self and sanity while raising small children in the middle of nowhere. Hell, it's a hard thing to maintain even while in the middle of somewhere. I'm happy for you. I hope the move goes smoothly. Friendship and society are very, very good things to have — especially when trying to maintain a sense of self and sanity while raising small children in the middle of nowhere. Hell, it’s a hard thing to maintain even while in the middle of somewhere.

I’m happy for you. I hope the move goes smoothly.

]]> by: Karen http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18103 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 18:38:23 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18103 You're not betraying anything, circumstances simply changed for your family. It's the people who continue to cling to something that isn't working for them, because they're afraid of what someone else might think, who are the ones that need to apologise. Look at it this way, if Emme Lu came to you in similar circumstances, what you would tell her to do? Glad to have back. You’re not betraying anything, circumstances simply changed for your family. It’s the people who continue to cling to something that isn’t working for them, because they’re afraid of what someone else might think, who are the ones that need to apologise.

Look at it this way, if Emme Lu came to you in similar circumstances, what you would tell her to do?

Glad to have back.

]]> by: Mary http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18090 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 14:59:58 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18090 No worries on the tomatoes - they thrive in containers on the patio as long as you have enough sun and are willing to water them! I also live on the fruit of the gods in late summer. Enjoy! No worries on the tomatoes - they thrive in containers on the patio as long as you have enough sun and are willing to water them! I also live on the fruit of the gods in late summer. Enjoy!

]]> by: FDChief http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18076 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 10:29:31 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18076 And I'm with Jacquie - I've missed your voice. And I’m with Jacquie - I’ve missed your voice.

]]> by: FDChief http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18075 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 10:28:44 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18075 First - I have to chuckle a little. My parents were good Fifties Americans as defined by the three-car garage and the toaster on the kitchen counter. So when my pop was transferred to LA they moved to a tract house in Whittier, CA. in 1955. I'm a native Californian - Tricky Dick Nixon's homeboy (our birthplaces are about five miles, or six hours LA drive, apart) - but in 1957 the "tract house" was the start of a firebreak road at the very edge of civilization. So I shared my playpen with a couple of rattlesnakes, got to watch kingbirds and throw avocados and generally grow up wild in the city. So LA - rather than being bourgeois and suburban - has stayed in my mind as exotic and deserty... BUT - speaking as one who has two of these little charmers - the idea of decamping to somewhere really out-of-the-way and the ultimate in unchildproofed gives me the cold sweats. You have nothing to apologize for in liking the idea of WiFi and Kindergym and a babysitter closer then two hours drive. I can leave the traffic, but I'm with you - the time to return to the quiet, deserty places is when you and they are older. Right now, it's time for more people, more help, more friends. Good luck! First - I have to chuckle a little. My parents were good Fifties Americans as defined by the three-car garage and the toaster on the kitchen counter. So when my pop was transferred to LA they moved to a tract house in Whittier, CA. in 1955. I’m a native Californian - Tricky Dick Nixon’s homeboy (our birthplaces are about five miles, or six hours LA drive, apart) - but in 1957 the “tract house” was the start of a firebreak road at the very edge of civilization. So I shared my playpen with a couple of rattlesnakes, got to watch kingbirds and throw avocados and generally grow up wild in the city. So LA - rather than being bourgeois and suburban - has stayed in my mind as exotic and deserty…

BUT - speaking as one who has two of these little charmers - the idea of decamping to somewhere really out-of-the-way and the ultimate in unchildproofed gives me the cold sweats. You have nothing to apologize for in liking the idea of WiFi and Kindergym and a babysitter closer then two hours drive. I can leave the traffic, but I’m with you - the time to return to the quiet, deserty places is when you and they are older. Right now, it’s time for more people, more help, more friends.

Good luck!

]]> by: Cavatica http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18039 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 01:48:37 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18039 Makes perfect sense to me! Your ranch sounds fantastic, but not so kid-friendly. It's interesting how a kidlet changes things and you. Makes perfect sense to me! Your ranch sounds fantastic, but not so kid-friendly. It’s interesting how a kidlet changes things and you.

]]> by: Maia http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18037 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 01:37:53 +0000 http://thesingingbirdblog.com/2008/01/31/tick-tock/#comment-18037 Eh, being bourgeois is underrated. To survive as a mom - you gotta have support. And anyone who tells you different has never been a mom (or is some sort of weird robot). Your new life will be sunny and wonderful, and you will get see Emme Lu bloom more beautifully than the garden you will leave behind. Eh, being bourgeois is underrated. To survive as a mom - you gotta have support. And anyone who tells you different has never been a mom (or is some sort of weird robot).

Your new life will be sunny and wonderful, and you will get see Emme Lu bloom more beautifully than the garden you will leave behind.

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